Confronting And Replacing Your Faulty Beliefs
June 23, 2022
Is your opinion of yourself high, low, or somewhere in between?
What beliefs about yourself have you accepted or convinced yourself are true?
Your opinion of yourself and your place in the world is a self-determining prophecy that affects your happiness, success, and relationships.
Your beliefs about yourself affect everything you do and can even lead to panic disorder, anxiety, and depression.
Some of your beliefs are based on false emotions, memories, or the erroneous beliefs and misguided opinions of others.
How Faulty Beliefs Affect Everything You Do
For better or worse, your subconscious mind operates according to how you see the world and your place in it.
You’re either stacking the odds in your favor or against you.
This might sting a little, but the truth is that you’re holding yourself back from living a fulfilling life that overflows with adventure, love, opportunity, and joy.
Tony Robbins said: “The only thing that’s keeping you from getting what you want is the story you keep telling yourself.”
But here’s the good news: YOU can change your story right now! It won’t feel comfortable at first, but the power is yours to make a new choice.
What Are Faulty Beliefs?
Limiting beliefs are the opinions and thoughts you believe to be 100% true and are anchored deeply within your mind because you’ve thought about them so much and for so long.
We blame others to feel good about ourselves and as an excuse for why we’re not living the life that we say we really want to live.
It’s time for blame to have a funeral so you can finally unlock your best life.
You can engage in blame, adhere to faulty beliefs and thinking, and endure a stunted existence, or say, “Enough!” and press onward, despite your fears and what “they” told you.
It’s your life.
If you’ve felt stuck, held back, incompetent, and that failure follows you wherever you go, know that you don’t have to live like that anymore.
Where Do Faulty Beliefs Come From?
Faulty beliefs are developed very early in childhood. According to Dr. Bruce Lipton, the first seven years of our lives are extremely critical because our brains soak in everything, unfiltered. It’s how we learn right vs. wrong, good vs. evil.
Children born and raised in a caring, cheerful, positive, and supportive environment who feel loved and valued grow up believing that they are valuable, that their lives matter, and that they are worthy of love, success, and affection.
Unfortunately, the opposite is also true.
Children who are neglected or abused grow up believing that they’re not worthy of love and affection.
Here are some of the negative by-products of faulty beliefs:
- Imposter syndrome
- Validation-seeking behavior
How to Identify Faulty Beliefs
Step 1: Notice Your Thoughts
Pay attention to your thoughts. The next time that little voice in your head tells you that the good life isn’t for you, ask, “Why not?” Let the little voice answer you. And then ask, “But is that really true?”
Step 2: Confront Faulty Beliefs
Challenge your faulty beliefs head-on; don’t just sit there and take it. You deserve better. You’ll have a better life the day you start treating yourself better.
Disrupt negative thoughts and beliefs by asking, “Is that really true?” (Most of the time, it isn’t even close to the truth!).
Next, replace that negative thought with at least two positive ones – or two things for which you’re grateful, or two positive attributes about yourself. Start practicing being your own best friend.
Slowly, that little negative voice in your head will get weaker and weaker as another voice, a stronger, truthful, more confident voice, takes its place.
You’ll notice that your mental and emotional energy don’t feel as drained, and each day is a little brighter.
Step 3: Develop Healthy Beliefs
Acknowledge and embrace your self-worth. Love yourself (not in an “I’m better than you” sort of way; that’s arrogant and selfish).
You’ve done an amazing job getting to where you are right now! No one tells you often enough, “Good job!” so say it to yourself! Be proud of your life and accomplishments.
Now that you’re empowered with compassion, confidence, and a healthy sense of self-love, think about one thing you try to avoid on purpose; perhaps it’s social interactions.
To overcome that fear, press forward through your discomfort and commit to engage in a brief, meaningless conversation with one or two people each day.
Putting yourself out there can be scary, so what? A lot of things are scary or uncomfortable at first. It’s okay to feel awkward and uncomfortable sometimes – just look at a baby learning to walk! It’s about the most awkward and uncomfortable thing you’ll ever see!
Confident, optimistic people press forward despite their fears and keep moving forward until they’re comfortable in their own skin.
To unlock your best life, don’t blindly accept what you’ve been told. Challenge your faulty beliefs! Choose to finally start seeing yourself for who and what you really are because when you do, a whole new world of hope and possibility is within reach.